In which I opine...

...The professor and the player

Cliches are cliches for a reason. Which is that they are true. Many gay men are effeminate. Promiscuity exists among gay men. Gay men have trouble forming long-term relationships. All of these things and others that are whispered, sotto voce, hold good, certainly to an extent. The point is not to go hammer and tongs after someone who references any of these or other stereotypes. The point is to accept these stereotypes for what they are, try and understand their pervasiveness, and not locate gayness as a system falling outside the dominant social narrative.