Monday, December 02, 2013

Moral Dilemma ...


A week ago was a season ending event for a flag football I captained, and played for, 53 years old and I am still running around on a field in South Philadelphia with a (mostly) much younger group of kids and I am still coaching them too, or as I explained to a ref who got on me for yelling too much at my team: “I can change my gender but not the fact that I coached high school football.”

After the event, which was upstairs at a bar, we went to ... the downstairs part of the bar, and sitting at a table in a corner there was a middle aged man, who had a suitcase and other bags and looked forlorn.  I, doing my best to help my fellow human, ignored him completely of course, and went on to drinking with my team.  Finally though, we got up to leave and he was still sitting there, still looking so sad that I reached out to him, talked to him, gave him my card.

And yesterday, I got this email from him, and I’ve reproduced it verbatim with the exception of some information I’ve redacted from it for reasons that will become clear.

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On Sunday, December 1, 2013 3:53 PM, <XXXXX> wrote:
Julie,
It was such a pleasure to meet you at <YYY> last Sun nite (11/24)
I believe it was a literal "Divine Appointment"
I desperately need help with getting settled asap/meaning a place to live
I could use your services as a liason/advocate with my brother who is trustee of my inheritance monies$$$ & having difficulty working out my needed draws of funds
I am homeless now
If you have a friend who needs a roommate here in center city/university city & could hook me up to  move in asap I could get monies within about 72 hrs
I am honest a management accountant of 16 yrs/hon dischare air force vet 1975-1979
air force academy 3 yrs/bs business univ denver 1981/& ba biblical studies 1986

father of 2, grandfather of 2/married 16 yrs/divorced since 1996
re:lgbt: I am "b" (Bi)
sorry if i get sloppy
limited computer time    
can also use you to help me incorporate my nonprofit orgn "<AAAA>":

Julie,
hope to hear from you asap by email
else ill call you mon or tues
when i get cell phone access
can meet you at <YYY> with notice
thanks for your love & warmth
<XXXXX>
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Something about the email seemed a little … odd (“I am a Nicaraguan prince waiting for my kingdom please wire me $500,000 immediately so I can give you millions you seem like a nice lady”) so I Google the fellow and on the first page of Google, someone with a name like his – I am not of course saying it was him – had been convicted of child molestation in Orlando FL as well as, more recently, criminal activity in Philadelphia.

Recently I posted here the experience of a Mormon bishop who disguised himself as homeless, visited his church, and was pretty much cast aside.  And we don’t know how angels come, and Christ condemned those who walked by the man in the ditch, so I have done my best to try to help all.

On the other hand, there are creeps out there.

4 comments:

  1. The "creeps" are plentiful, aren't they? And I thought they only trolled through the Internet and emails. Now they are making personal appearances? Yikes!

    BTW, my blogs have been consolidated, renamed, and refocused. Now I will be putting my blogging energies into one site: a commonplace from eastrod. I hope you will visit every now and then. Please tell Frank about the changes. By now, though, he and you must be puzzled by my blogging schizophrenia. I promise. I am not one of those "creeps." Perhaps that was not very reassuring. In any case, I invite you and Frank (and everyone at Books, Inq.) to stop by now and then.

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  2. I would forward him to some kind of church or social organization that can help him. You help him by doing the leg work but don't put yourself at risk. An organization can better bear this kind of risk. I also would only have email contact with him. Just some thoughts to consider.

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  3. Thanks R.T. and Tony! For what it's worth, this was my response:
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    I am afraid I have my own stunning difficulties...and many more people who count on me than I can possibly help. I feel like Job myself; my resources are simply exhausted, and I need God to step up myself.

    If you need help, all I can do is point you to a place like William Way. If you want to seek non LGBT help, I would tell you to ask at William Way, I don't know what is available.

    Pray for me, I will do the same for you.
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