… Jenny Diski’s Jisei: On Death Poems and In Gratitude | Literary Hub. (Hat tip, Rus Bowden.)
There is no one-size-fits-all in living. Which is why there isn't one in dying. Diski notes that she was never in the presence of someone when they died. I have been. And just a few weeks ago I saw my brother just an hour or so after he died. His body was there. He was not.